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You’re back from your physician with some bad news: you’ve been diagnosed as a carrier of the herpes virus. Take a few moments to compose yourself with the fact that you’ll carry herpes forever, but then realize: this isn’t the end of the world. You’ll still be able to lead a rich, fulfilling life with wonderful friends and family. Herpes carriers aren’t different from the unaffected person standing next to them; the main contrast is that increased honesty and restraint is required when you think about having sex with a new partner.

First, we’ll start with a bit of an introduction. Herpes is a virus that is transmitted when an infected person engages in sexual activity with a partner. It’s important to note once more that, at least for the moment, herpes doesn’t have a cure, and stays with the host for the rest of his or her life. Sporadically, the virus manifests itself into blisters and sores that can be itchy and irritable.

So how does this affect one’s dating life? From the outset, you’ll need to be honest with potential partners. Before any sexual activity at all occurs, make sure they fully understand how herpes works, what it does, and their risks of contracting the infection if they engage in sexual activity. You don’t have to do this on the first date, but make sure to bring it up sooner, rather than later. That means not waiting until you’re back at his (or her) place, ready to get it on. Pulling this kind of move will almost always result in an angry partner walking out the door, often not to return.

You may also want to take a look at the various sites that cater to people with herpes. There are numerous benefits associated with these services. For instance, everyone on these sites knows exactly what you’re going through. They can offer a crutch to lean on in times of need. You’ll also never have to go through the awkward “I have herpes” conversation.

Folks with the herpes virus don’t always show symptoms, but it’s still crucial to let potential partners know the deal, regardless of whether you have sores or not at the time.

When you do suffer from an outbreak, make sure to avoid having sex. The chances of passing along herpes are much greater if open sores or blisters are visible. There are certain drugs on the market that work to control your outbreaks. Though they can be quite expensive, there is no price on making sure that you’re protecting your partner as best as possible.

And of course, always wear protection. Condoms aren’t bulletproof in this situation, but they certainly go a long way towards keeping you and your partners safe. Herpes is just one of the many STD’s out there; others include AIDS and Hepatitis, both of which have very serious consequences.

At the end of the day, realize that your life partner will love you, irrespective of herpes. It’s just one small part of your life.